women and workplace identity
You shouldn’t have to choose between being yourself and being successful.
You show up.
Every. Single. Day.
YET IT STILL FEELS LIKE YOU’RE PLAYING A GAME THAT WASN’T DESIGNED FOR YOU.
You know how to navigate a room When to speak up. What thoughts to keep to yourself. What parts of yourself you can show vs have to hide.
You've learned to dim your light just enough to avoid being labeled as "too emotional" or "too outspoken." Meanwhile, your male colleague is praised for half-baked ideas because he has the right connections and can talk his way through anything. You’ve worked twice as hard to get half as far, and somehow it still doesn't feel like enough.
YOU CAN’T HELP BUT WONDER IF YOU’RE AN IMPOSTOR WHO FOOLED EVERYONE INTO THINKING YOU DESERVE TO BE HERE.
Maybe that same colleague was promoted due to his “potential,” whereas you were passed up due to “insufficient experience.” You may even have plenty of experience but can’t talk about it — because you gained it while managing upward due to weaponized incompetence.
REST DOES NOT HAVE TO BE EARNED.
You don’t have to figure it out alone.
Hey! Welcome to my virtual couch. Let’s talk. This space was created with you in mind. You don’t have to justify your experiences or watch what you say. I won’t play devil’s advocate if you have a gut feeling that an interaction at work was a microaggression.
As someone who has been in your shoes, I understand the unspoken context you carry into every room. You deserve to feel like the main character of your story rather than a guest star in someone else's. Here, you get to explore what you actually want and need. Let’s work together to build a life that would make your younger self proud.
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PUT A FINGER DOWN IF
HOW MANY OF THESE SITUATIONS HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED OR WITNESSED?
You’re the unspoken emotional support person of the office because leadership dismisses concerns that don’t affect them.
You have a coworker who likes policing what other people say but felt “attacked” when you called them in during a presentation on intent vs. impact.
You’re one of the few BIPOC women left at work because the others were fired (or quit) for vague reasons like being "unduly critical."
You've been volun-told to create and implement DEI programming — because apparently that’s part of your job now.
YOU'VE BEEN LIVING IN SOMEONE ELSE'S STORY LONG ENOUGH.
Let's discover what life is like when you start living for yourself.
Therapy with me is…
WE'LL GET CURIOUS ABOUT THE PATTERNS OF BEHAVIOR YOU'VE DEVELOPED TO SURVIVE IN ENVIRONMENTS THAT WEREN'T CREATED WITH YOU IN MIND.
Some of those patterns serve you well. Others may come at a cost that's only now becoming apparent. We'll explore how your past experiences, intersecting identities, and the systems you navigate daily have shaped how you interact with the world. What parts of you do people see in your personal versus professional life and which ones stay hidden?
YOU’LL THINK OF YOUR VALUES AS A COMPASS THAT POINTS YOU TOWARD WHAT MATTERS MOST.
As you reconnect to the "why" behind your work, we'll calibrate it according to what you value in this chapter of your life. (What YOU value — not what your dad, auntie, best friend, or pastor values.) You’ll distinguish between choices that align with your values and ones driven by external expectations or the need for validation. From there, we'll clarify what is serving you and what is quietly draining you.
YOU'LL BUILD CONCRETE TOOLS THAT TAKE YOUR SPECIFIC LIVED EXPERIENCES INTO ACCOUNT.
Your values will guide the steps you take as you recognize patterns in life that no longer serve you. You'll have assertive communication skills that account for seen and unseen power dynamics. We'll develop strategies for tackling challenges that are outside of your control or not worth your time and energy. You'll identify stepping stones toward the life you desire using your strengths as a foundation.
YOU'LL FIND SELF-COMPASSION INTERWOVEN THROUGHOUT OUR WORK TOGETHER, INVITING YOU TO SLOW DOWN.
Self-compassion isn't just about replacing self-criticism with kindness. It also involves having the courage to be a fierce advocate for yourself by setting boundaries without guilt. You’ll become attuned to what your mind and body need by practicing daily check-ins. As you untangle self-worth from productivity, you’ll get to know the version of you that blooms when capitalism is stripped away.
AT THE END OF THE DAY - IT COMES DOWN TO THIS:
Imagine a life where…
01 YOU KNOW YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH.
Your self-worth doesn’t depend on how much time and energy you put into your work. You view boundaries as a right rather than a risk. Asking for help feels empowering instead of shameful. Simply existing as your authentic self is like an act of resistance.
02 REST ISN’T SOMETHING YOU HAVE TO EARN.
You give yourself permission to slow down – not because all your work is done – but because you listen to what your mind and body need. Rest is not a reward. It’s a non-negotiable that you don’t have to justify.
03 YOU DON’T QUESTION YOUR EXPERIENCES OF DISCRIMINATION.
You have words to describe what you’ve always known to be true – double standards, microaggressions, gaslighting, and invisible labor to name a few. You weren’t being dramatic. Having this language doesn't undo what happened, but it helps you process, communicate, and decide what to do next.
IT’S TIME TO STEP INTO YOUR MAIN CHARACTER ENERGY.